Relationship insurance.

Taken from Becky's collection at www.chictoday.com under intimacy section.

A friend of mine was about to go on a third date with a man she really liked when he called to cancel. He explained that he had lost his job, wasn’t feeling great, and was going to spend the evening with his cousin. Although it was only their third date, my friend wished she was the person he wanted to talk to about his problems. She wanted him to confide in her so she would feel needed – a classic example of relationship insurance.
Being a partner’s confidante is one of the key ways women seek to connect with men. The logic is simple – if he needs me, he won’t leave me. In female friendships, women bond by talking and sharing their feelings. We all know how stubborn men can be when it comes to asking for directions and similarly, they tend to seek advice only when they are seriously lost.

To offer unsolicited advice to a man can be interpreted as an insinuation of his inability to cope with his problems. In relationships, women often push men to communicate more openly in order to feel connected to their partners. However, men often retreat into their thoughts to search for solutions and if they feel pressured to talk, this can lead to further communication breakdown.
The greatest insurance a woman can have in a relationship is whether their partner calls and how often he wants to meet. Beyond that, the best insurance is self assurance. Trust that your partner will come to you when he is ready and in the meantime, Saint Augustine knew what he was talking about when he said, “Patience is the companion of wisdom.”

A friend of mine was about to go on a third date with a man she really liked when he called to cancel. He explained that he had lost his job, wasn’t feeling great, and was going to spend the evening with his cousin. Although it was only their third date, my friend wished she was the person he wanted to talk to about his problems. She wanted him to confide in her so she would feel needed – a classic example of relationship insurance.
Being a partner’s confidante is one of the key ways women seek to connect with men. The logic is simple – if he needs me, he won’t leave me. In female friendships, women bond by talking and sharing their feelings. We all know how stubborn men can be when it comes to asking for directions and similarly, they tend to seek advice only when they are seriously lost.

To offer unsolicited advice to a man can be interpreted as an insinuation of his inability to cope with his problems. In relationships, women often push men to communicate more openly in order to feel connected to their partners. However, men often retreat into their thoughts to search for solutions and if they feel pressured to talk, this can lead to further communication breakdown.
The greatest insurance a woman can have in a relationship is whether their partner calls and how often he wants to meet. Beyond that, the best insurance is self assurance. Trust that your partner will come to you when he is ready and in the meantime, Saint Augustine knew what he was talking about when he said, “Patience is the companion of wisdom.”